Leos First day at school, was chaos!

well Leo started school on 8/18,it was a Monday and he didn't want to stay but I left him any ways, much to my dismay I had barely returned home, and my husband met me at the door and told me to head back to the school to get Leo as he had hurt himself, I drove the 10 miles back to pick him up, he was so upset and he had literally scratched his face, neck side and buttocks with his fingers. I took him home I was so upset, how could those teachers allow him to hurt himself? I decided till we had a sit down meeting I would not return him to school.
Aug 20th my birthday was the meeting there were many people at this meeting from the E.S.E
Director to the principal, the school nurse, speech therapist, behavioral therapist, as well as a psychologist, and the teachers and my self. THE main goal for this meeting mind you is that we come to a median for a support system for Leo's needs. we were going good till the teacher spoke, seems she was more concerned for the other children and their parents then she was my child, don't misunderstand I do know that the other kids are important but she should have held her own meeting to discuss this not at Leos Meeting! I got very emotional and started to cry, I didn't cause my son to be like this, its not his fault,why are we being treated so horrible, like he doesn't matter just heavens forbid the other children and their parents be subjected to such... OMG.... I truly have never been so upset for my child in my life, I also found out that the teacher was totally doing the wrong things by having me pick him up when he throwed a fit last year, now we have reinforced negative behaviors and we must undo this damage.
its also horrible to know that the parent has to give permission to the school so that they can keep your/my child from harming them selves. HOW RIDICULOUS is that...
He is back in school and as of now has completed 1 week with minimal incident, I just really hope my Little Leo gets the chance to learn and socialize with other kids.
I will continue thru the year to blog on his accomplishments!